Hello Lovelies! This week I’m changing things up and doing a little Q & A with my husband and posting on a Thursday, what! (There will still be another blog post tomorrow too) Our 4 year wedding anniversary is TODAY and to be honest, I thought we were at 5 years already. (insert face slap emoji) Oops! I wanted to give you guys a little insight to our relationship and how the past 4 years has gone for us. This is a big step for my husband. He’s very personal and private and does not like to share a lot about our relationship, because it is just that, ours. He was ok with sharing this post and told me to just ‘run it!’ so here we are! We answered these questions separately and then shared our answers with each other afterwards. I hope you all enjoy this personal post.
Do you think 4 years of marriage was hard?
Ashley: No, not at all. If you want something badly enough then you make it a priority. I want to be married to Sean so it all came naturally. If anything it has gotten easier.
Sean: No. I don’t think it’s ever hard with Ashley.
What do you think are the most important things to have in any marriage?
Ashley: Communication, trust and loyalty.
Sean: Besides the obvious love, I would say having common goals and good money spending and saving habits. (His comments after he heard my answer = Ashley’s answers go without saying and you wouldn’t be or shouldn’t be married if you don’t have communication, trust and loyalty.)
What is your favorite memory in the last 4 years?
Ashley: When I look back on everything that we’ve done together it’s really hard to pick one thing. We’ve traveled all over together, been to countless sporting events, road trips and spend entire weekends in bed binge watching Netflix and eating frozen pizzas. As cheesy as it sounds, my favorite memories are all the ones we’ve spent together, just the two of us.
Sean: Immediately, I think if winning a lot of money in the Draft Kings weekly millionaire maker tournament. I got 12th! Marriage related, that’s a really hard one for me. We do everything together so it’s hard to pick one. Lately, we had the best laughing attack in the car coming home on Memorial Day weekend. Moving into our home was one of the best days too, besides our wedding day.
What advice do you have for newlyweds?
Ashley: Communication, communication, communication. Everybody tells you that because it’s so true. Tell each other everything even if you fear the outcome. Don’t ever lie, the truth always comes out in the end. Be patient; there is still so much to discover about each other and it will take time. You will learn the good, the bad and the ugly and just accept them for who they are and embrace it.
Sean: Honestly, the best advice I have is, beside all the hoop-lah and negativity that comes along with ‘marriage’, nothing really changes. If you love somebody you love somebody. The fear of marriage is baloney.
What is the one thing you love most about each other?
Ashley: Physically, I love Sean’s eyes. They are the most vivid blue. He also has an incredible jaw line that is hard to miss. : ) I’m also a sucker for mens hands. Sean has the manliest hands that I just LOVE! Personality wise, I love how goal oriented and driven Sean is. Not only in his career but when it comes to our future. He’s also the most loyal person I’ve ever met. He’s genuine and there’s no question about who he is or what he stands for.
Sean: I don’t know to explain it. My answer is just, Ashley.
This is where I cried. : `(
What is the one thing that you love to do with each other and nobody else?
Ashley: I prefer to do everything with Sean because he’s my best friend. : )
What is your idea of the perfect date night?
Ashley: I’m either one extreme or the other. Take me to a great steakhouse or sushi restaurant and let’s get a bottle of wine, apps, salad, entrees and desert. I’m talking 4 courses and then some! On the other hand I am so happy to be in comfies with takeout and Netflix. Any time I don’t have to cook is a good date night to me haha.
Sean: Frozen pizza, ice cream and a movie on the couch.
What is one thing that you think each other has improved upon the most in the last 4 years?
Ashley: I really think that Sean has improved on the way he words things with me. He’s more mindful of what he says and communicates in a nicer way. He’s also become so much more patient with me.
Sean: I think this is hard because each situation I can think of is subjective. I would say listening. No, I would say in the last 4 years Ashley has fully begun to believe in me and trust in me and my goals and my aspirations and she’s allowed me to just be me. Even if they’re scary or foreign, she just lets me handle it.
I really enjoyed doing this post and asking Sean these questions. It got us talking about our 4 years of marriage and how far we’ve come. It’s fun to reminisce about old time and plan for our future together.
I hope you all enjoyed this change of pace blog post and got to know us a little more. Thank you all so much for reading and coming back week after week. It means so much! Until next time,